It is said that twenty percent of males in the United States suffer from PE, or premature ejaculation. Although most attribute it to inexperience or a mental obstacle, it can also be related to physical problems. Ejaculation in both men and women involves hitting certain pleasure points in the mind and, of course, the body. When the brain reaches climax, it sends the signal to the sexual organs to release ejaculate. Yes, women release ejaculate, too.
The problem with men is that we can normally only ejaculate once and our sex drive is drastically reduced, including our erection, which is a big problem if your partner is not on the same pleasure path as yourself. This can be embarrassing, frustrating, and seen as a defect in a man’s ability to pleasure his partner. What can be done to delay this inevitable release?
First, you must properly determine if you actually have PE, or if it’s just a temporary problem. If this is something that has happened numerous times in your life, then you know you have it, but if this is something that has occurred more recently, it could just be outside factors that must be corrected or that you need to adapt to. One major reason for sexual dysfunction is increased levels of stress. Stress affects your mind and your body, via blood flow. If you’re having sex with a sort of pent-up anxiety, chance are you’re not going to be in good control of your own orgasm, let alone the other person’s.
Another major problem would have to be having expectations or a perception about your partner that are not based in reality, therefor you are easily overwhelmed with sensations, too fast, too early.
There is no one solution to premature ejaculation, but there are some things you can try, by yourself that can be fun and possibly confidence-boosting in the bedroom. It’s true that porn can have a bad influence on your sex life, however, if you use it as a learning tool, you can improve your performance, and possibly cure PE. If you are using porn as a race to get off, then you’re teaching the brain to do the same in the bedroom.
If you practice what is called “edging”, you can achieve more longevity and rewire how you experience pleasure. Edging involves masturbating until you’re ready to ejaculate, but stopping before you get there, and ceasing stimulation. It teaches self-control and, ultimately, increases the pleasure felt upon release. You can definitely teach an old dog new tricks.